Congratulations, you have been chosen of as the maid of honor! Not only is this role an honor and a privilege, it also entails responsibilities and obligations. No worries, here at Faviana we have compiled a basic “Do’s and Don’ts” guide to assist you in being the perfect maid of honor.
Get along with the other bridesmaids. Even if you have never met them, make an effort to introduce yourself and become friends. Try to get along with someone you may have a problem with, at least until the wedding is over. It is your job to be the peacemaker of the group. If you said “yes” to take part in the bride’s special day, then respect her by not causing any drama. Take into consideration that these girls can help you come up with amazing ideas and assist in organizing the upcoming events.
Provide emotional support. If she chooses you to be the maid of honor, then you are one of the most meaningful people in her life that she trusts. This whole experience is going to be filled with emotions from tears of joy to frustration. Give her a shoulder to lean on, whether she’s crying because her catering arrangements didn’t follow through a month before the wedding or because she needs to rant about her future mother-in-law. Chances are she can’t complain to the groom, so get ready to be all ears. Also, be honest with the bride and provide any helpful suggestions or solutions.
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Be prepared to spend money. Don’t make the commitment if you are not willing to spend money. These expenses will include the bridal shower, the bachelorette party, gifts, and anything else the bridal party decides on. If it happens to be an issue, set aside a talk with the bride to make a compromise. She chose you because she loves you, so problems with money can definitely be worked on.
Plan a glamorous bridal shower. Although you will be in charge of most of the details and decisions, make sure to consider her input into your planning. Set a date and make reservations about 3 months in advance. Typically, this event is held a month before the wedding so make preparations that everyone can join in and celebrate. There are sometimes exceptions where the family would want to organize this gathering.
Throw an unforgettable bachelorette party. This is one of the most exciting parts of being the maid of honor. Just remember to think about the bride and don’t plan this event in a place she would hate. After all, you want her to have the best time of her life before she is officially tied down. Make sure to run the guest list through the bride in case you happen to include someone that she doesn’t want to be there. Don’t be afraid to ask for help from the other bridesmaids, chances are they will be more than willing to help.
Go missing in action. Be prepared to help with everything. She’s going to depend on you to be reliable and helpful. So whatever you do, don’t ignore her phone calls and texts.
Complain. Organizing a wedding can be stressful and complaining will only make matters worse. Be helpful and try to stay positive! If the weather is bad, keep in mind that the bride is probably three times more upset then you are. She doesn’t need to hear about your whining, so don’t rain on her parade. If you have nothing nice to say, then don’t say it at all.
Refuse the bridesmaid dress the bride has selected. Remember that this is her day and not yours, which means she has full control over her vision of what she wants the bridesmaids to wear. Although, you can give the bride your opinion if she asks and it’s okay to let her know if the dress makes you uncomfortable.
Upload photos of the bride on her wedding day without permission. This rule mainly applies before the ceremony. Guests should not post photos of the bride and groom until they get permission. As a common courtesy, leave it up to the couple to post the first picture.
Outshine the bride. Don’t make her wedding about you. Sorry, but being part of the bridal party does not mean you deserve any amount of spotlight. It’s her special day so let her shine, and know she would do the same if it were yours.